Why Girls Send Mixed Signals And What You Can Do About It
She gave you her number, but when you texted her she didn't even reply.
She gave you her number and she texts you back every time you text her, but when you invite her out she somehow always has something else scheduled. She tells you she would "really love going out with you", it just never happens.
When you get tired of proposing stuff to her and you stop contacting her, she almost always gets back to you complaining that you "forgot about her".
She goes out with you on multiple dates, but no matter what you do she just doesn't come home with you. Maybe she allows you to kiss her a little here and there before you part ways and call it a night.
She blatantly flirts with you throwing innuendos your way when others are present, but when you try to capitalize on them by proposing to spend some one-on-one time with her she simply doesn't follow.
Most guys have been exposed to these mixed signals or a version of them. What is the common element behind all these situations?
Uncertainty.
One person seeks a specific result and another is deciding whether to go along with it or not. However, the person who uses uncertainty does not provide a straightforward reply. It's neither a loud YES nor a loud NO. It's something in between...It is something positive enough to keep the seeker of this result around, but not something SO positive as to make his wish come true.
The one who wields uncertainty is the one who is in control. Whenever a woman behaved to you the way we described above, it was SHE who was in control, not you.
Why Do Women Send Mixed Signals?
Girls send mixed signals for several reasons, but the most important is this: they crave attention, validation, and keeping their options open. They don’t crave this because they are evil or manipulative. They do it because they are designed by nature to look for the best, strongest males out there to mate and have strong children as a result.
Yes, there are psychopathic or narcissistic women out there who intend to hurt men with their behavior, but they are quite rare.
Most women who will send you mixed messages are just normal girls who act according to their nature. The same way us, guys, crave sex with beautiful women not because we are “pervs”, but because it is our nature to spread our seed and let humanity multiply, so it is with girls and their attention-seeking behavior.
While we can’t really control or change a girl’s nature, what we can do is control ourselves and the way a woman perceives us.
Just think about it.
Do girls send mixed signals to ALL men or to SOME men? If they send mixed signals to some men, what kind of men are they? Clearly, a girl doesn’t send mixed signals to a guy she fantasizes about day and night, right?
Women usually behave in a mixed way towards men whom they do not perceive as strong lover options. Men who behave like providers or men who don’t interact with women in a man-to-woman fashion are prime candidates for this type of hot-and-cold attitude.
Yes, these guys offer the girl some value, but not the kind of value that would give the girl a sense of urgency to move with them to sex any time soon. Many men like to exude all types of values except for the one that really matters to women. They may show off their financial value, their professional value, their social value (network, connections etc), but pure erotic value? Not so much.
It’s what society told them after all: fatten your bank account and women will fall for you; become a doctor, a lawyer, a banker or what have you and girls will line up to suck your dick. Don’t worry if you are timid, awkward, and uncharismatic…. women won’t mind!
But of course, women do mind about how attractive a man you are and whether you can make her wet with your masculine attitude or not. Neither society nor women themselves will tell you this though, because imagine how risky would be for society to have really masculine men running around seducing women left and right and how impractical would be for women to have only lover type of guys to choose from.
So, it seems that the only person who doesn’t get any benefit out of women’s mixed signals is… you.
It’s up to you then to protect the one and only truly precious resource you have in this life, a resource that is non-renewable.
Time: A Man's Most Precious Resource
Every minute you decide to spend on something is a minute you decide not to spend on something else. This is called “opportunity cost”. It’s about what you are missing while you choose to do this instead of that.
This is true in life in general and it is certainly true in your dating life in particular. If you are reading this, it means you are thirsty to grow as masculine man; to get success with women; to live an abundant dating life.
This is a process that takes some time, so if you let the wrong women waste it like there is no tomorrow, you are going to prolong your learning curve unnecessarily.
Getting the girls you want is about searching for the girls you like that also like you back, women who want what you want, while improving yourself along the way. To do this efficiently you need to disregard all those women who don't fall into that category.
How to do this effectively?
How to distinguish between girls who want what you want and girls who are just cock-teasers and time-wasters?
Simple.
How To Handle Mixed Signals From Girls
1. Always move your interactions with girls forward
You can never know what a girl's intentions are unless you move things forward with her.
Propose things
Invite her to things
Go for one-on-one situations with her, and always try to escalate
If you are already on a date with her, use light touch early on and invite her home by the end of it
If you are still texting, make it short and to the point
Use texting as a mere means of arranging a date with her. Don't become her text body.
2. Pay attention to what girls do, not what they say
After everything you've done to move things forward, what is her behavior?
Does she agree to join you and does she actually do it?
Is she moving along with you or is she simply talking about it?
If her actions don't match her words, then it's time for you to cut her off. Remember, intentions are cheap for the results-oriented man.
3. Give yourself a deadline
Most guys don't have a limit to how many times they can contact a girl or how much time they should give a girl to comply. They are capable of chasing a girl till eternity no matter how the girl behaves. If you respect your time and life, don't do this.
If she doesn't reply to two texts you sent, why do you keep texting her?
If you go out on two dates and she remains Platonic why do you keep arranging new dates?
Hey, it's your life. You decide to whom you are going to give your precious time and on what terms. No matter what you choose, just put a limit to the number of efforts you are willing to make for any single girl you meet and never forget to keep your mind in a state of abundance. There is plenty of fish in the sea.
4. Beat girls in their own game
The most effective and proactive measure you can take towards girls who send you mixed signals is to transform yourself into a mixed-signals man. What does this mean? It means you stop being a nice guy full of certainty about any woman that is cute. Women love mystery. It's what makes them wet. Girls fall in love with men they cannot easily understand or categorize.
If you are the guy who constantly finds himself in the position of the one who wants intensely something from women, while those women remain lukewarm towards you, then it's time for you to turn the tables.
Become a less predictable man
Stop chasing women who don't reciprocate
Avoid being super responsive in your communication with her
Don't pick up the phone immediately when women call you
Don't respond to all messages a girl sends you right away
Be more immersed into your own life and activities
Ignore all silly proposals girls might throw at you that can't lead you to bed together with them
Always keep your options open and actively create more options for yourself with other women who like you enough to follow your lead, kiss you, and have sex with you
Keep meeting and approaching new women
Conclusion
Women like to get attention, and sending mixed signals to men is a way to get it and keep it. However, nice guys, provider type guys and less sexual guys are more likely to be the recipient of mixed signals sent by women.
No one but you is going to protect you against women's mixed signals. It is you, the man, who is responsible to make good use of your own time by deciding which girls are worth pursuing and which ones are just huge time-wasters.
In your dating journey with women, you can save a lot of time and mental energy if you just:
Always move your interactions with girls forward
Pay attention to what girls do, not what they say
Give yourself a deadline
Beat girls in their own game
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