Why Girls Don't Reply To Your Initial Text Although They Gave You Their Number
One of the most frustrating situations a man can deal with when he starts his journey as a lover and seducer of women is right after he starts getting some results from women. So, you took care of your fashion, you started going out, you adopted the habit of approaching the women you like, and you started collecting some numbers. Reaching this level might have taken months for you or even a couple of years if you were previously totally inexperienced - and yet you hit a wall after getting the girl's number: you texted her to invite her out, but she never replied. It might have happened to you more than once, including with girls that you were sure they were into you. You remain wondering why this happens and whether you did something wrong.
No worries. It happens to all men, especially in the early stages of their self-improvement journey, and even experienced seducers will still see this happening to them. Let's see why it happens and what you should do about it.
4 Reasons Why Girls Give Their Phone Numbers To Men
We are men and we like to think rationally and linearly. If a girl gave her number to us it means she wants to see us, right? Otherwise, why would she hand it out to us? Well, women are not thinking in this linear fashion, so these explanations prove to be wrong many times. A girl might give out her number for reasons other than wanting to go out with a man who approaches her. Let's see what these reasons might be.
1. She Was Not attracted To You And Wanted To Get Rid Of You
For one reason or another, your approach wasn't particularly attractive to the girl, and handing out her number to you might have been a way for her to give you some closure. In other words, giving you her number might be her way to end the interaction. Maybe you were not her type or maybe you were somewhat her type but your approach was not good enough. This usually happens if your approach is more social and indirect rather than erotic and direct. Polite, nice guys who approach women in a sort of "harmless" way, but fail to create the spark of attraction, might cause girls to give them their number out of politeness and not because of attraction. So, when you texted her to ask her out she didn't even bother to reply. You were a nice guy, but not sexy enough for her to go on a date with you.
2. She Gave You Her Number Because You Insisted
This is the exact opposite case. You weren't the harmless, social guy. You were the intense, direct guy who managed to get her number within two minutes of talk with her, by going direct, serving her a direct, erotic compliment and told her you want to take her out sometime. She said "yes" because your approach was like a tornado of masculine energy without a lot of comfort. What happened here is that you didn't give her any other choice and to give you her number was for her the socially easy thing to do. When she received your text she remembered that she gave you her number too easily "without really knowing you" and she backtracked. Better for her to not reply to your text at all than text you to explain why she doesn't feel like meeting you, although she gave you her number.
3. She Was Somewhat Attracted To You And Wanted To Reward You For Approaching
She might have liked your approach, she might even find you attractive, and since not many men actually have the balls to cold approach beautiful women, she might feel the need to "reward" you for it, while not being sure she really wants to see you.
4. She Wanted To go Out With You In The Moment, But She Changed Her Mind
This can happen to any man regardless of the levels of attraction a girl has for him. A changing mood is always in the cards with women. She liked the idea of going o a date with you when you approached her, but when she received your message she wasn't into it.
How To Minimize No-Replies From Women
Ask her first out first, then if she says "yes" ask for the number. Don't just go straight to getting her number. Let a proposal or an invitation come first. The number should be just a means to an end, not an end in itself. If you first ask her out and says "yes, sure", it's more weird for her not to reply when you text her to arrange it. It can still happen, but you just reduce the chance of it happening.
Keep your interactions relatively short (but not too short). Don't stick to an interaction with a girl too long or she will be bored with you and give you her number just to get rid of you. Keep your interactions short and to the point and thus you reduce the chance of her getting bored of a protracted talk with a stranger. On the other hand, don't become too short in your interactions with girls because it would seem that you are some kind of a pro who does this far too easily with too many women. In other words, don't make it too fast and too aggressively because it will seem to her quite impersonal, and women always want to feel that they are "special".
Keep talking to her even after you get her number. Ok, you got her number, but if you leave right away it seems a little bit abrupt and utilitarian. It's like you "used her" to get something out of her, then left. This is a more extreme continuation of the second case, where you are too good in getting a woman's number fast and on top of it you leave her once you get it. It might seem kind of "brutal". Instead, once you get her number keep chatting with her casually for a few more minutes and don't let the number moment be THE moment of your interaction with her.
Don't Lose Your Cool When She Doesn't Reply
A few useful things to remember, so that you don't get angry or disappointed just because a girl gave you her number, but didn't reply to your initial message:
Even if you do the above, some girls will still not reply to your text
A change of heart is a woman's prerogative
It's a numbers game
What To Do When She Doesn't Reply
Cut her off, delete her number and move to women who are willing to go out with you.
If a girl can't do the bare minimum for you, which is to at least reply to your initial invitation to take her out, she will most likely not do any of the bigger and more important things for you, which is to go out with you, kiss you and have sex with you. If she changes her mind sometime in the future, let her get back to you on her own initiative. Life is too short to chase girls who are cold or lukewarm towards you.
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