Scarcity or Abundance? Choose Your World

Every man tries to achieve different things in his dating life through Game or through his overall self-improvement journey for that matter.

One wants to test his limits and experiment in order to see what kind of women and for which role he can bring to his life.

Another seeks consciously to meet multiple dating partners and experience the taste of sexual variety, while a third one is looking for a quality relationship with the woman of his life.

No matter what your dating goals are, however, the simple fact is that you cannot achieve them unless you are already in a state of abundance.

I don’t care whether you want multiple one-night stands, a monogamous relationship or to find the mother of your children… before you get what you want, your life must already be full or at least you should be on your way to create this state of fullness.

This is exactly one of the most interesting and intriguing paradoxes that you will ever encounter in Game: to get what you want you must behave as if you already got it.

The Hungry Will Not Be Fed ,The Desperate Will Not Receive

You have heard expressions such as “money goes to money” or “the rich become richer, and the poor become poorer”.

Those who are financially well-off are more likely to multiply their riches.

The basketball players who have already been scoring one three-pointer after another in a basketball game are more likely to continue like that.

And the Don Juans who already have a harem of women in their life are more likely to increase their conquests with the members of the opposite sex compared to their more “unlucky” friends who haven’t gotten laid for the last eight months.

Why is this happening?

If you are a regular guy and you read this you might find that dynamic rather bizzare. And if on top of that you are also a high-empathy person you might even sympathize with the poor, the basketball players who can’t score three-pointers or the men who have sex with women once in a blue moon.

You might even feel that it’s “unfair” for those who already have to receive even more, while those who don’t have continue having even less…

I assure you that this dynamic is completely normal. Nothing wrong about it. Why? Because every current situation fuels every future situation.

Every material, psychological or emotional thing in your life is destined to reproduce itself.…unless you do something to proactively change it.

Wealth brings wealth.

Poverty brings poverty.

Stagnancy brings stagnancy.

Progress leads to progress.

Victory brings more victories.

And defeat leads to more defeats.

Do you remember that time when you wanted to complete that task but you kept postponing it until the job was never done? Why?

Because procrastination brings procrastination.

Do you remember that time when a worrisome thought or a concern of yours made you lose your sleep for one single night only for a series of sleepless nights to follow for the entire week? Why?

Because sleeplessness brings sleeplessness.

Do you remember that time when you approached a girl, but because she rejected you, you became negative and after that all other girls you approached that same night kept rejecting you as well? Why?

Because negativity brings negativity.

Remember now all those times you went out for drinks, you were well-rested, emotionally and psychologically full, you were having fun, enjoying the night, you approached several gorgeous women who somehow were all not available… but because you didn’t allow these rejections to get under your skin you ended up meeting a far hotter woman who gladly gave you her number? Why?

Because abundance brings abundance.

Abundance Is A State Mind…

You might wonder why in this last example I am talking about abundance. After all, you didn’t get anything tangible all night before that gorgeous girl gladly gave you her number. You had nothing. No success. No desired results. Just rejection. So, where is the abundance here?

To get your answer you need to see that I don’t care about your results, be it positive or negative, but only about the way you interpret them. I don’t pay attention to what happens after you approach the women of your choice. I only pay attention to how you deal with the result of your approach, whether positive or negative.

In my last example, you were already full, self-sufficient, in a positive psychological state…and you continued to be like that independently from how women treated your approach.

A man who lives in a state of abundance is not a man who gets attacked by sex-hungry top models every time he gets out of his house, nor a man who receives 15 calls by 15 different women every single day.

It might be that as well, but it is not mainly that.

Abundance just like scarcity are states of mind emanating from the deep-seated conviction that you can have what you want even when occasionally you actually don’t have it.

It is this well-established belief that even when you are not there yet you can and will be there soon.

Even when you might be in dry spell, you will soon get over it.

Even if all girls seem to be rejecting you, this too shall pass if you don’t just quit.

Abundance is this powerful feeling that the world is full of resources and women and that it is simply a matter of time and personal improvement to get what you want.

It is a state of mental calm and certainty. Like seeing things from above. You don’t panic. You don’t lose yourself in the small picture. You just surrender to the process and keep going.

...Which Is Nonetheless Forged In Real Life

While abundance is primarily a mental state, it cannot be conquered by mind alone.

Although there are mental tools and exercises to help you shape an abundance mentality, these are not enough to turn abundance into a living experience.

True abundance in your dating life can only be achieved through living multiple experiences with women.

You will need hundreds, maybe thousands, of approaches, hundreds of rejections, multiple phone numbers, dates, and sexual adventures to build your personal portfolio of dating experiences to reach the life you want with the women you want.

There is no way around it. No magic wand exists. There is no shortcut. No silver bullet can get you to abundance mentality with women.

Massive action is the only way for you to taste true dating and sexual abundance, this is the only way we know.

Just don’t forget to assume you already got it until you reach that point.