8 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Care When Girls Reject You

Ah rejection. This ancient ghost haunting men for ages. That piercing feeling that comes after you tried something but didn’t work out, especially when that “something” has to do with another human being of the opposite sex. Although rejection has no physical properties, it can feel to many men as if it had. It feels like real pain. This mechanism is hard-wired in our human nature. Our most primitive parts of our brain treat psychological pain the same as physical pain. You see to be “rejected” by the social group and be cast out of it might have physical consequences for our ancestors. To be “unwelcome” might seriously threaten your chances for survivability. It could lead to your … death. But what about nowadays? Why being rejected by a girl continues to haunt most men’s thoughts? Are they threatened with biological death? Why does rejection keep playing a big role in how men think and act in their dating lives? Because habits, especially when they are that old, die hard. Because the reptile part of our brain still lives inside us and still reacts on autopilot every time a woman doesn’t reciprocate our feelings or doesn’t welcome our approach. This is extremely important because it can make or break your dating life as a modern man. Most men do not enjoy the abundant dating lifestyle they really desire because they want to avoid being rejected by girls. They stay inactive in order to avoid the “pain” of feeling inadequate when a girl doesn’t accept their moves. This is a very limiting way to live your life as a man, if you ask me. Not getting what you want just because you are scared of being rejected by a girl. Cutting off yourself from the chance to meet your next one-night stand, your next girlfriend, or the mother of your children is too big of a price to pay for your fear of rejection. Let us get you out of this fate. Here are eight reasons why you shouldn’t let rejection ruin your dating life with beautiful women.

1. It’s Not You, It’s Your Energy Or Your Approach

If you meet women through cold approach like we suggest you do there is no way that you hear “yes” all the time. In fact, most of the times girls will reject you for one reason or another. Hearing “no” or having your approaches go nowhere might as well be your most usual outcome, so it’s too easy to take it personally. You immediately think that her cold reception or her bitchy attitude or her rejecting of your proposal for a drink must mean one thing and one thing only: it’s about you. She is not attracted to a guy like you. Just think about it for a second. Does this interpretation make sense to you? You talked to her for a few minutes. She gave you the cold shoulder. How can it possibly be about you as a man? She doesn’t know you. When you really reject something, you reject it because you tried it and know for a fact that you don’t like it. But in this case? She didn’t try you. She doesn’t know who you are. So, her saying “no” has nothing to do with you. You might as well had gold to offer her, but she would still say “no” automatically. This is good news for you. She didn’t reject you. She rejected your energy, your approach, your manner. Why it’s good news? Because all these things can be improved if you put in the time effort.

2. It’s Not You, It’s The Timing

Many things in life are about timing. It is the “when” that matters more than the “what”. When you decided to approach her, you thought the moment was good for you. But was it good for her? Maybe the day or the time or the specific moment you met her was not right for her. Maybe she was in a hurry. Maybe she got some bad news and was depressed about it. Maybe she was feeling self-conscious and “unworthy” of a man’s approach then and there. Not at all times do women feel “sexy”. Bottomline: the exact same girl simply in another instance could be perfectly ready for your approach, so no need to perceive bad timing as “bad you”.

3. It’s Her Sexual And Emotional Availability

Many men make the mistake of treating female sexuality exactly as their own masculine sexuality. They think women is just an extension of themselves. Don’t make this mistake. You need to remember that women’s nature is not to spread their genes out and about like it is in a man’s case. Women have slots of availability. Sexually and emotionally. Unlike your own masculine availability which might be practically on 24/7, her own sexual and emotional availability is limited. If her sexual and emotional “slots” are covered by other men before you, then she will likely reject you because of it. It’s mere practicality for her. Women do not function with quantity in mind. They function with quality in mind.

4. It’s Part Of The Male Nature

We cannot stress it enough: to get what you want out of life as a man you need to go for it multiple times. Being a man in most cases is a numbers game. The men who refuse to play it are actually those who refuse to act according to their nature. To get rejected multiple times is part of being a man. Never forget that you are sperm. Just like all your sperm cells will fail to impregnate a woman and only one will actually get the job done, so you will fail multiple times before you successfully attract the type of woman that you desire. You take massive action, you get rejected a lot, then you succeed. Rinse and repeat.

5. Rejection Is Your Teacher

If there was no rejection in a man’s life, then we should have invented it. Why? Because it shapes you as a man. It teaches you things you didn’t know about yourself. It is through rejection that you learn persistence and mental toughness. You learn how to overcome obstacles. You build up your confidence. You become “rougher”, and women women are attracted to masculine men. Rejection teaches you to become tough when things get tough. It teaches you to drop all excuses and go out and build the dating life that you want.

6. Rejection Is Not A Reflection Of Who You Are

Your deeper inner self is not your rejections. Your rejections have nothing to do with who you are. You are a dynamic man who can change and evolve. A specific rejection at a specific moment in time cannot reflect the totality of your self. Treat rejection as the product of randomness, not as a verdict about who you are as a man.

7. Rejection Shows You Your Blind Spots

Rejection shows you what parts of your appearance, body language, style, and verbal skills need to be further honed. It shows you your weak points with women. Maybe it’s flirting you need to learn or maybe it’s your fashion. Maybe your approaches are timid or maybe you can’t hold strong eye contact with a girl. That's your opportunity to fix these things and become a better, stronger, more attractive man. Use it!

8. It Doesn’t Exist

Rejection is not real. It is a product of your mind. It is just an interpretation of how a girl treated you, it is not the fact itself. When you want a girl and that girl doesn’t want you back, it simply means that you didn’t get what you wanted, but not getting what you wanted doesn’t mean you got “rejected”. It means that simply you didn’t get what you wanted. Ultimately, “rejection” is just your own judgement of a certain situation with a girl. Not the situation per se. Don't let rejection hinder your progress and happiness as a man. Learn how to embrace it and you will enjoy a quality of dating life that most men can only dream of.