8 Lame Excuses Men Use To Avoid Approaching Women

In case you didn’t notice, these days, men have evolved into master producers of excuses. Part of it has to do with the growing epidemic of entitlement that many men feel. They think women owe them something. They believe that just because they exist they are somehow entitled to receiving love and sex from women. And why not feel entitled when today’s comfortable life can get them passively almost anything they desire without really putting in the effort. With just one click they can get access to an entire virtual world of sexy, hot women and they can reach their desired result without the intermediate process. It doesn’t matter if it’s not real. It doesn’t matter if it is porn consumption or paid sex. All it matters is that they don’t have to approach girls in the real world. All it matters is that they don’t do this scary thing called flirting and attracting real girls. Their fragile ego can’t handle it, so even when they are out and about they use a bunch of excuses to avoid approaching the beautiful women they deep down desire. Let’s talk about the eight most lame excuses they usually use. Chances are you have used some of them too.

1. She Is Not Cute Enough

It’s ok to have standards. In fact, part of your desire to improve your flirting skills and embark on this journey as a man is to actually attract the beautiful girls you have always wanted, not some mediocre substitute of them. However, “standards” is something you develop as you go. It should be something that you get progressively while you take action with lots of women. You can’t use “standards” as a reason not to act. You can’t pretend that you are picky when deep down you know that you haven’t had sex with a girl for the last eight months. And you can’t use “standards” especially when you are a beginner with women and you simply haven’t created enough experiences with different girls. You simply don’t have this luxury. When you are out and you see a girl that meets your minimum criteria of beauty you must approach. How else are you going to get your ten without sharpening your flirting skills? And how are you going to satisfy sexually your ten without having sex with several cute-enough girls first?

2. She Is Not Alone

You guessed correctly. Modern-day girls have friends. They have social circles. They go out with other people. You can see them in groups of women, in groups of men, and in mixed groups. Wishing for a girl to be completely alone so that you can grow the balls to approach her is not a valid strategy for your sex life. Accept that a girl you like might be with others and learn how to approach her without caring about it. We have approached girls who were out with other girls. We have approached girls who were out with men. Heck, we have even approached girls with their mothers next to them. If you don’t go to talk to a woman just because she is in the company of others, you are losing at least half of your chances to meet your next lay or your next girlfriend.

3. She Isn't Looking At Me/No “Green Light” To approach

Requiring “green lights” from women so that you can approach is maybe our favorite lame excuse not to approach. Why? Because the men who use it have a hard time understanding their masculine role within nature and within society. This excuse reverses the roles between the two sexes. The guys who use it actually expect girls to be active, so that they can remain passive. But “passive” is not your role as a man. You don’t need a girl to look at you, smile at you, talk to you or send you some kind of a signal to do your job. You are a man. You are the active part of the equation. The only thing you need to make your move is desire. We can’t count the times when we actually received abundant “green lights” from women, but when we approached we found out that they weren't actually available. In many other times, we received "positive signals” from girls escorted by a guy as a couple. The point is: even if you get these “signals”, they are not reliable. An unavailable girl might seem “approachable” and a really available girl might seem “unapproachable”. You can’t really know unless you go to her.

4. People Around Will See Me/Hear Me/Judge me

Flash news. Other people do not focus on you. You are not the center of their attention. When out, people actually mind their own business. They are also too busy being self-conscious to pay attention to something you do or say. Believing that if you approach a girl other people’s faces will be on you is just a creation of your brain. If anything, most people are going to be your allies if they see you do something brave. It happened to us many times. Men and women alike, passersby, congratulating us after we approached a girl in public. Priceless.

5. I Don't Know What To Say

While this one might sound like a legitimate concern of yours, especially when you are a beginner, it is not. Why? Because knowing what to say is less important than how you say it. It’s the type of energy that you bring to the girl that makes the difference, not the exact words that will come out of your mouth. Approaching women is not about “spell-casting”. You are not a wizard. You are a man. And men attract women with their aura, their firmness, and their boldness. You don’t need pick-up lines. You don’t need a fixed script. You only need to express to her what you really like about her by giving her a genuine compliment. When you saw her, you know exactly what you liked on her. So, start with that. It’s more than enough.

6. She Doesn't Look Friendly/She Looks Like An Ice Queen

Never focus on appearances. They are deceptive. Your role as a man is to penetrate the surface. Not to eat it up. Women put up an attitude some times. You shouldn’t worry about that. A seemingly aloof woman might prove to be a little kitten once you approach her. Women are not meant to be open or seem open from the get-go. Women are meant to open up as a result of your masculine energy. A seemingly “cold” girl might warm up once you meet her, and a seemingly cutie-pie type of a girl might prove bitchy or unpleasant. Don’t deprive yourself of amazing experiences with amazing women just because you mistakenly judge a book by its cover.

7. I Am Not Looking To Get Laid/I Am With Friends Tonight

So, are you saying that if a pretty girl fell to your lap you wouldn’t have sex with her because “you are not looking to get laid tonight”? The very idea of selective sexual availability based on timing is deeply feminine in nature. It is natural for women to have varying levels of sexual desire based on their menstrual cycle, for instance. But for men? Unless you are physically exhausted or psychologically depressed you are almost always on. You are at least in a position to flirt with a girl to hone your skills, especially if you are a beginner.

8. I Don't Have Time

The same time you would use to jerk off to porn, watch Netflix or exhaust your fingers with swiping left and right on mobile dating apps you could as well use for a few minutes a day to approach real-life women. Even if you are a super active businessman, you can always find a few minutes to talk to a woman waiting for the bus on your way to work or approach that cute lady at the restaurant where you have your lunch.

Your excuses or your personal growth as a man.

Your fear or enjoying the dating life that you want.

You can’t have both. So, choose wisely.